So you know boys, I am borrowing the title of this post from a current favorite sit-com of mine, but I wanted you both to have an accurate account of how your mom and dad met. Please note that I wrote the word accurate, which means that this is the true story, no matter who (mom) tells you otherwise...
During your life, you will find some times where things are going great, the world is your oyster and everything going your way- enjoy them! Other times, no matter what you try to do, things feel tough and you cant seem to get anything going your way and some big changes to your life are heading your way..not fun. Well, around the time that I first met your mother, I was in the middle of a difficult phase of my life....(setting the stage...)
At this time, your mother and I were working at Peoples Bank and never met. I remember the day- I was scheduled to go to a training class to maintain my insurance license which I didnt need to attend because my job no longer required me to have that license, but I wanted to keep that up. Your mother was schedule for the same class and when she entered the class, she caught my eye right away as she sit across the room from me. Now, I know it may be hard to believe, but your ole man can be shy and I thought for sure, that your mom was either married or dating- no one who was so beautiful could be single. But I noticed that a few times when I tried to sneak a glance at her, that she was looking at me!! I even looked behind me to see if maybe I was sitting under the clock, but no- no clock!! Class ended and we went our separate ways...
The next day, I received a voice mail from a friend/co-worker that basically said "I heard that you were in a training class yesterday and made quite an impression on my cousin". Turns out that she asking about me, knowing that I worked with her cousin in the same department. Honestly, I didnt believe it and thought about what I should do. I did nothing. I wasnt in a position to. So I waited until maybe I would hear something back from her. That didnt happen and months went by. Sometimes, I would ask her cousin about her to see if she was dating or how she was doing, but I did nothing to reach out to her, up until a few months later when I felt that I was in a better place to take that step......
"So I hear you were talking about me, I hope that you were kind"...that was the email that I sent to reach out to her for the first time. I know...how passive is that, but hey, thats what I did. Well, that started our conversation that led to our first date...dinner at Acapulcos in Stratford CT. Honestly, I was more excited than nervous. We met, had dinner and then went for drinks at Southport Brewery in Milford. No goodnight kiss(I dont think I tried)... A week later, I brought her to a NY Mets game where we had tickets in the Mastercard Suite(your dad is a class act). This stands out as it was the first time that I tried to kiss her goodbye, but got shot down. Your mom is a class act!!
We casually dated for a few (she'd say weeks, I say months) before we got serious and got married on a beach in the Dominican Republic a few years later. Been an awesome ride since then...lots of ups, a few downs and I know that through it all, she is the one I want to take this long ride with.
Boys, here is the story of the beginning of our life together. A nice story. But I think that the one thing important to take away from this- when life has you down, know that it is not forever. Things change, sometimes beyond your control and for reasons that are not clear to you at the time, but if you maintain a positive outlook and make good decisions, you will come out of it and might come out of it in a much better place.
